Leadership Tips 10 of 14: Understand emotional needs
Victory
has an emotional attachment, a passion in achievement of vision. Every
individual of the victorious team will have a winning purpose and will
be emotionally attached to it. This emotional purpose is the driving
force towards victory.
Leaders need to take care of their staff.
Discover their emotional needs, then motivate and give every support
needed to meet their emotional need.
A leader's greatest job is to
bring out the value of his team members. Let them know their value. A
leader should be compassionate at times, which will bring in an extra
bonding and emotional attachment, developing into trust, understanding
and value for each other. It develops unity. It is a great feeling when
your team leader listens to you; value your points and helps in solving
the problems, either official or personal. It reduces stress and
alleviates their performance to achieve the vision.
Leadership Tips 11 of 14: Art of positive motivation
The
best motivation comes from within. A good leader just has to ignite the
belief system and fuel it; success will ensue. Motivate staff
regularly, from your top performing executive to your office boy because
I believe, if one person in your team is de-motivated it can ruin the
entire team. If there is a problem of concern at office on any matter
bring it out rather that encasing it.
Your internal motivation is your self drive (hunger to succeed) and attitude. Don't be complacent.
In a positive environment even an under performer is motivated and
becomes a performer but in a negative environment a performer can fail
miserably because he is not valued and is continuously de-motivated.
Listen
to your staff, make sure their views and points are considered and
appreciated. Further, keep promises, give respect and seek respect, be
committed to the staff and be one among them. Let the team have a shared
vision and it's not an individual, it's a team with passion, which
succeeds.
Leadership Tips 12 of 14: Appreciate, recognize and reward
Appreciation,
reorganization and reward, play magic on individuals or team. Employees
who feel recognized deliver excellent results. Keep the team and the
individual team member well informed on the company activities and their
performance status. Update the sales score board daily. Trigger the
competition among team members, competition among teams, and among
different branches.
Appreciate, recognize and reward performance. A
job well done pat on the shoulders, well done hand shake, a
personalized appreciation email or letter can be very motivating and
will help in steady growth in the performance of the team.
Recognize
employee performance at the right time, delay can cause de-motivation.
And, reward them at the right occasion. Results are best when you
reward. But remember it's a regular process.
Increase reward
program and minimize finger pointing. Praise the employees publicly and
specifically for his work. Display testimonial letters on the board.
Celebrate occasions and event like birthday, marriage anniversary, etc.
Leadership Tips 13 of 14: Breaking the shell
Life
is a continuous learning process. Regularly update your skills and be
hungry for new updates in different areas. Read and listen to
motivational books, tapes and disks. Arrange presentation and learning
session. Let every staff contribute to it.
The whole idea behind
it is to develop a family environment, free of stress and fear.
Employees can free themselves and display their strength in every area.
They are encouraged to take risk and develop new ideas which will help
to discover new processes and strategies. Employees never fear to bring
new creative thoughts or ideas and experiment them. These ideas may be
successful or it may fail, either ways it is recognized and rewarded.
It's not suppressed, it is appreciated and encouraged. The basic idea is
to energize, develop, equip and take new challenges &
responsibility which will lead the company to greater vision and
success. Work is delegated to those employees who tend to put extra
effort. They are smart workers. They work more for the company; they
spend more time on office work.
Leadership Tips 14 of 14: Transfer leadership
Be
a transparent leader, be committed at all levels, keep even the small
promises not just in you work place but in your life also. Be sincere
and caring. Don't put off things, do it with out any delay. Stand by
your employees; if some complaints arise from customer first investigate
it and take corrective or preventive action. Never put an employee in
state of fear of losing the job. Advice him, and see that he and other
staffs don't repeat the same mistake again.
Lead from front, be a
role model. Show expertise and confidence. Leaders show the route to
success and help their subordinates to become a leader. They spread the
light of leadership and bring the subordinates to their level. They give
the freedom to develop oneself and grow. Subordinates look up to the
leader for guidance and direction. Leaders Leave Legacy!
Showing posts with label self development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self development. Show all posts
Friday, 3 February 2017
1 Hour Leadership Development Program - 14 Leadership Tips - Tips 10 - 14
Thursday, 2 February 2017
1 Hour Leadership Development Program - 14 Leadership Tips - Tips 5 - 9
Leadership Tips 5 of 14: Courage builder
Courage is the strength and power of leadership. Most people don't like to take risk. They don't even initiate opportunities, because of fear of losing or the change involved in it. People are afraid to take ownership of situation, either it be a good situation or bad situation. And, if it's a bad situation it's the blame game they play. Eliminate fear! The best way to control or win fear is to face it with mental strength and determination.
Leadership Tips 6 of 14: Creativity - cultivate different seeds
Creative ideas lead over experience and existing winners. It cuts every limit to success.
Stop doing the same thing over and over, stop imitating what others did. Most inventions or creative ideas evolve when men are alone, while day dreaming during their leisure time and when their mind is relaxed and full with positive energy.
Leadership Tips 7 of 14: Change adaptability
Learn to manage change. Life is full of choices and compromises. It's dynamic and changing. The environment around us is changing, society is changing, people are changing, technology is changing, and almost everything is changing. The best way to manage change is to embrace it. Anticipate it, monitor it, accept it, adapt to it & enjoy it. Make, 'change' part of your life, a leader is a continuous learner so he has to change continuously by enhancing skills and move forward.
Leadership Tips 8 of 14: Setting the environment
Set the office environment right, display or hang motivational posters, product banners, policy documents, incentive charts, mission statement etc around. Display employee performance chart and best performer awards and photos around. Establish a positive quality environment where the staffs are motivated to deliver their best.
Leadership Tips 9 of 14: Communication with understanding
The greatest road block in communication is our tendency to evaluate or make judgments once you hear or see something. This is our natural urge. We usually agree or disagree to a statement from our point of view. Suppose this statement on which you evaluate has greater emotions, feelings and a strong message then your reactions will be sensitive. Either you approve or disapprove the attitude expressed. This impulse to evaluate any emotionally meaningful statement from our point of view is what blocks interpersonal communication.
Courage is the strength and power of leadership. Most people don't like to take risk. They don't even initiate opportunities, because of fear of losing or the change involved in it. People are afraid to take ownership of situation, either it be a good situation or bad situation. And, if it's a bad situation it's the blame game they play. Eliminate fear! The best way to control or win fear is to face it with mental strength and determination.
Leadership Tips 6 of 14: Creativity - cultivate different seeds
Creative ideas lead over experience and existing winners. It cuts every limit to success.
Stop doing the same thing over and over, stop imitating what others did. Most inventions or creative ideas evolve when men are alone, while day dreaming during their leisure time and when their mind is relaxed and full with positive energy.
Leadership Tips 7 of 14: Change adaptability
Learn to manage change. Life is full of choices and compromises. It's dynamic and changing. The environment around us is changing, society is changing, people are changing, technology is changing, and almost everything is changing. The best way to manage change is to embrace it. Anticipate it, monitor it, accept it, adapt to it & enjoy it. Make, 'change' part of your life, a leader is a continuous learner so he has to change continuously by enhancing skills and move forward.
Leadership Tips 8 of 14: Setting the environment
Set the office environment right, display or hang motivational posters, product banners, policy documents, incentive charts, mission statement etc around. Display employee performance chart and best performer awards and photos around. Establish a positive quality environment where the staffs are motivated to deliver their best.
Leadership Tips 9 of 14: Communication with understanding
The greatest road block in communication is our tendency to evaluate or make judgments once you hear or see something. This is our natural urge. We usually agree or disagree to a statement from our point of view. Suppose this statement on which you evaluate has greater emotions, feelings and a strong message then your reactions will be sensitive. Either you approve or disapprove the attitude expressed. This impulse to evaluate any emotionally meaningful statement from our point of view is what blocks interpersonal communication.
Wednesday, 1 February 2017
1 Hour Leadership Development Program - 14 Leadership Tips - Tips 1 - 4
Leadership is the road map to success. It brings continuous excellence in human life.
Are there born leaders? Every man is a leader and leadership is evolved with in and it flourishes in every aspect of living; let it be business, your office, in sports, in politics, in society, family and in every corner of the world.
First we must understand that leadership is not just an outside process, we lead our self first and influence our self to establish the self-direction and self motivation to deliver the best.
Leadership begins within. The seeds are already embedded inside us. We need to care it, water it, nourish it and get the best out of it continuously. If you can develop your personal leadership skills i.e. once you learn to lead yourself, you can set examples of your selves and lead your people.
Leadership is a multidimensional activity. It seems to be very complex but its simple and within ourselves. We need to bring the leadership out, spread its rays and bring meaning to life. Leadership is both an inward and outward activity. Leadership starts with personal leadership and it spreads around taking shape of what I call people leadership. It is result oriented and relationship oriented.
The CEO of a company and the sales executive both are leaders. A CEO leads the organization where as a sales executive uses his leadership skills to establish himself in the organization.
Effective Leadership Training Program in 1 hour
Leadership Tips 1 of 14: Set the right attitude
Leadership Tips 2 of 14: Fine tuning 'the self'
Leadership Tips 3 of 14: Developing vision and conquer time
Leadership Tips 4 of 14: Knowledge building
Leadership Tips 5 of 14: Courage builder
Leadership Tips 6 of 14: Creativity - cultivate different seeds
Leadership Tips 7 of 14: Change adaptability
Leadership Tips 8 of 14: Setting the environment
Leadership Tips 9 of 14: Communication with understanding
Leadership Tips 10 of 14: Understand emotional needs
Leadership Tips 11 of 14: Art of positive motivation
Leadership Tips 12 of 14: Appreciate, recognize and reward
Leadership Tips 13 of 14: Breaking the shell
Leadership Tips 14 of 14: Transfer leadership
Leadership Tips 1 of 14: Set the right attitude
Attitude contributes a lot to success. A study in Harvard University figured out an interesting result that a person gets a job or promotion because of his attitude, contributing 85% and remaining 15% only to other factors.
Always be positive, optimistic. Stay away from negative areas. Never let negativity enter your mind. Take life with a smile. Inhale positive thoughts and spread positive energy. I have a friend she is a very positive person and when ever you say something she laughs loudly in a special way. This positive ness from her laugh generates lot of power and energy, in everyone around her. It's always great to have some natural positive power generators as friends.
If one believes he can win, he will win. We have to develop our positive believing attitude.
We may loose out or may not achieve perfection still we are winners because we are positive, we have the desire and commitment. Learn from other mistakes and avoid it happening to you. Success is routed through failures but the 'never say die' attitude leads to success.
Leadership Tips 2 of 14: Fine tuning 'the self'
Self discipline is the key in a leader's life. A system should be developed so that the maximum level of performance energy can be achieved. One has to manage oneself first. For this we need to fine tune ourselves both physically and mentally. Setting good habits are very important and it directly results in positive ness and optimistic vision.
Bring a system in your life
Wake up early
Most leaders wake up early. In doing so they have lot more time to organize and feed their mind & body with positive energy. Too much sleeping makes you dopey. It won't fresh you up, rather it tires you. So Sleep well and wake up naturally before the alarm rings.
Energize your mind & body
Get up early, devote some time for yourself, do some mind and body exercises. You will feel refreshed and calm for the whole day and also will boost your confidence level. This is so because human body generates lot of enzymes and fluids, if we exercise and these help in increasing the performance level of our body and mind.
Good Food habits
Food habits play an important role in your body and mind activities. You are what you eat or your thoughts are what you eat. So take a balanced diet.
Relax yourself, take a stroll, day dream
Releasing of stress is very important and our body and mind needs to relax. A break is always mandatory.
Leadership Tips 3 of 14: Developing vision and conquer time
Vision is your goals; it can be a combination of goals, your career goal, business goal, financial goal, family goal, etc. Goal is time bound. Your goal should be broken down into smaller goals; it should be clear and specific. You can also have short term goals running parallel to your long term goal.
Goals cannot be vague and it should be realistic and balanced. It must be SMART.
S - specific (prioritize)
M - measurable
A - achievable
R - relavent
T - time bound
You have to balance the goal with environment - let it be your family, business, finance, health, society.
The most important is the plan. You should have a specific plan that helps you to achieve your goal in time. Goals are dynamic because of the changes that life brings. So it's important to adapt or foresee the change and update your goals.
Leadership Tips 4 of 14: Knowledge building
Feed you mind continuously with good thoughts and knowledge. In this competitive world it is important to gain external & internal knowledge. External knowledge is on the world around you; it may or may not affect you. It can be the market knowledge. Internal knowledge is directly related to your vision. It is a critical success factor for successful accomplishment of your vision.
Convert opportunity to success, for this you need to look for inputs always. Collect as many data as possible, eliminate junk and keep only the relevant ones. This Data is Information, listen to it carefully. Information is Knowledge, understand it well. Knowledge is Intelligence, its wisdom. Knowledge is potential power and Wisdom is power. Power is success.
'ACT' on the knowledge and wisdom attained. Just acquiring the knowledge will not lead to success; link it with your vision and ACT.
Are there born leaders? Every man is a leader and leadership is evolved with in and it flourishes in every aspect of living; let it be business, your office, in sports, in politics, in society, family and in every corner of the world.
First we must understand that leadership is not just an outside process, we lead our self first and influence our self to establish the self-direction and self motivation to deliver the best.
Leadership begins within. The seeds are already embedded inside us. We need to care it, water it, nourish it and get the best out of it continuously. If you can develop your personal leadership skills i.e. once you learn to lead yourself, you can set examples of your selves and lead your people.
Leadership is a multidimensional activity. It seems to be very complex but its simple and within ourselves. We need to bring the leadership out, spread its rays and bring meaning to life. Leadership is both an inward and outward activity. Leadership starts with personal leadership and it spreads around taking shape of what I call people leadership. It is result oriented and relationship oriented.
The CEO of a company and the sales executive both are leaders. A CEO leads the organization where as a sales executive uses his leadership skills to establish himself in the organization.
Effective Leadership Training Program in 1 hour
Leadership Tips 1 of 14: Set the right attitude
Leadership Tips 2 of 14: Fine tuning 'the self'
Leadership Tips 3 of 14: Developing vision and conquer time
Leadership Tips 4 of 14: Knowledge building
Leadership Tips 5 of 14: Courage builder
Leadership Tips 6 of 14: Creativity - cultivate different seeds
Leadership Tips 7 of 14: Change adaptability
Leadership Tips 8 of 14: Setting the environment
Leadership Tips 9 of 14: Communication with understanding
Leadership Tips 10 of 14: Understand emotional needs
Leadership Tips 11 of 14: Art of positive motivation
Leadership Tips 12 of 14: Appreciate, recognize and reward
Leadership Tips 13 of 14: Breaking the shell
Leadership Tips 14 of 14: Transfer leadership
Leadership Tips 1 of 14: Set the right attitude
Attitude contributes a lot to success. A study in Harvard University figured out an interesting result that a person gets a job or promotion because of his attitude, contributing 85% and remaining 15% only to other factors.
Always be positive, optimistic. Stay away from negative areas. Never let negativity enter your mind. Take life with a smile. Inhale positive thoughts and spread positive energy. I have a friend she is a very positive person and when ever you say something she laughs loudly in a special way. This positive ness from her laugh generates lot of power and energy, in everyone around her. It's always great to have some natural positive power generators as friends.
If one believes he can win, he will win. We have to develop our positive believing attitude.
We may loose out or may not achieve perfection still we are winners because we are positive, we have the desire and commitment. Learn from other mistakes and avoid it happening to you. Success is routed through failures but the 'never say die' attitude leads to success.
Leadership Tips 2 of 14: Fine tuning 'the self'
Self discipline is the key in a leader's life. A system should be developed so that the maximum level of performance energy can be achieved. One has to manage oneself first. For this we need to fine tune ourselves both physically and mentally. Setting good habits are very important and it directly results in positive ness and optimistic vision.
"The first and best victory is to conquer self"
- Plato, Greek Philosopher
Bring a system in your life
Wake up early
Most leaders wake up early. In doing so they have lot more time to organize and feed their mind & body with positive energy. Too much sleeping makes you dopey. It won't fresh you up, rather it tires you. So Sleep well and wake up naturally before the alarm rings.
Energize your mind & body
Get up early, devote some time for yourself, do some mind and body exercises. You will feel refreshed and calm for the whole day and also will boost your confidence level. This is so because human body generates lot of enzymes and fluids, if we exercise and these help in increasing the performance level of our body and mind.
Good Food habits
Food habits play an important role in your body and mind activities. You are what you eat or your thoughts are what you eat. So take a balanced diet.
Relax yourself, take a stroll, day dream
Releasing of stress is very important and our body and mind needs to relax. A break is always mandatory.
Leadership Tips 3 of 14: Developing vision and conquer time
Vision is your goals; it can be a combination of goals, your career goal, business goal, financial goal, family goal, etc. Goal is time bound. Your goal should be broken down into smaller goals; it should be clear and specific. You can also have short term goals running parallel to your long term goal.
Goals cannot be vague and it should be realistic and balanced. It must be SMART.
S - specific (prioritize)
M - measurable
A - achievable
R - relavent
T - time bound
You have to balance the goal with environment - let it be your family, business, finance, health, society.
The most important is the plan. You should have a specific plan that helps you to achieve your goal in time. Goals are dynamic because of the changes that life brings. So it's important to adapt or foresee the change and update your goals.
Leadership Tips 4 of 14: Knowledge building
Feed you mind continuously with good thoughts and knowledge. In this competitive world it is important to gain external & internal knowledge. External knowledge is on the world around you; it may or may not affect you. It can be the market knowledge. Internal knowledge is directly related to your vision. It is a critical success factor for successful accomplishment of your vision.
Convert opportunity to success, for this you need to look for inputs always. Collect as many data as possible, eliminate junk and keep only the relevant ones. This Data is Information, listen to it carefully. Information is Knowledge, understand it well. Knowledge is Intelligence, its wisdom. Knowledge is potential power and Wisdom is power. Power is success.
'ACT' on the knowledge and wisdom attained. Just acquiring the knowledge will not lead to success; link it with your vision and ACT.
Thursday, 19 January 2017
Leaders Must Know Their Strengths And Weaknesses
Nobody is an expert in all areas. In over thirty years of working
closely with, advising and consulting to well over a thousand leaders, I
have come to realize that we often want to believe that our leaders
possess prowess regarding everything, while the reality is quite
different. Each leader I have ever come into contact with possessed
certain strengths, as well as certain weaknesses, although some had more
strengths than others.
Those leaders who wish to maximize their abilities must first realistically evaluate them, so as to fully understand what their capabilities personally are, and in which areas they must reach out to others for assistance and/ or guidance. Just as we should evaluate the strengths and weaknesses (also known as pros and cons) of any large purchase, such as a car or home, we should do the same when it comes to self- evaluation.
1. I recommend that the first thing someone do is to actually put these things on paper. First, place a line down the middle of the paper, one side for your strengths and the other side for weaknesses. The most essential first step is to commit to being completely honest with yourself. This means you'll have to look at yourself as if someone else was doing the evaluating, or as you might evaluate someone else.
2. This procedure must be done by category or trait, for both strengths and weaknesses. These traits include, but are not limited to: integrity; commitment; vision; goals; taking action; inner strength/ fortitude; communication skills, including oral, written, etc., but also including your willingness to communicate openly and fully; organizational skills; decision making skills and abilities; willingness to expand one's comfort zone; empathy; commitment to expanded training and learning; open- mindedness and ability to in a non- judgmental manner evaluate alternatives; creating an agenda; and caring. Although these are by no means all the characteristics and traits that go into be a top leader, self- evaluation of these is certainly an excellent first step.
3. What are you willing to do, and what will you do, to address those areas where you are not your strongest? Obviously, attaining additional training, and learning well to gain the expertise that will provide you with the knowledge to act wisely an in a timely manner, is a good beginning. However, those that wish to become elite leaders must formulate a small but extremely valuable "inner circle" of advisers, to advise you in your weaker areas, as well as acting as a sounding board in those stronger areas. Leaders must beware that when they select advisers, they should use the same type of strengths versus weaknesses format, because these advisers only provide value when they are also open- minded, with no personal agenda, and are also fully committed to the well being of the organization.
It is sometimes difficult to be an introspective leader, but it is also quite beneficial and essential. Commit to knowing yourself better if you truly are committed to being an effective and successful leader.
Those leaders who wish to maximize their abilities must first realistically evaluate them, so as to fully understand what their capabilities personally are, and in which areas they must reach out to others for assistance and/ or guidance. Just as we should evaluate the strengths and weaknesses (also known as pros and cons) of any large purchase, such as a car or home, we should do the same when it comes to self- evaluation.
1. I recommend that the first thing someone do is to actually put these things on paper. First, place a line down the middle of the paper, one side for your strengths and the other side for weaknesses. The most essential first step is to commit to being completely honest with yourself. This means you'll have to look at yourself as if someone else was doing the evaluating, or as you might evaluate someone else.
2. This procedure must be done by category or trait, for both strengths and weaknesses. These traits include, but are not limited to: integrity; commitment; vision; goals; taking action; inner strength/ fortitude; communication skills, including oral, written, etc., but also including your willingness to communicate openly and fully; organizational skills; decision making skills and abilities; willingness to expand one's comfort zone; empathy; commitment to expanded training and learning; open- mindedness and ability to in a non- judgmental manner evaluate alternatives; creating an agenda; and caring. Although these are by no means all the characteristics and traits that go into be a top leader, self- evaluation of these is certainly an excellent first step.
3. What are you willing to do, and what will you do, to address those areas where you are not your strongest? Obviously, attaining additional training, and learning well to gain the expertise that will provide you with the knowledge to act wisely an in a timely manner, is a good beginning. However, those that wish to become elite leaders must formulate a small but extremely valuable "inner circle" of advisers, to advise you in your weaker areas, as well as acting as a sounding board in those stronger areas. Leaders must beware that when they select advisers, they should use the same type of strengths versus weaknesses format, because these advisers only provide value when they are also open- minded, with no personal agenda, and are also fully committed to the well being of the organization.
It is sometimes difficult to be an introspective leader, but it is also quite beneficial and essential. Commit to knowing yourself better if you truly are committed to being an effective and successful leader.
Monday, 26 December 2016
How To Define Your Goals And Have A Vision
The first thing you need to do before you achieve anything is almost
always to define your goals. This is very integral to your potential
success as you can't very well succeed until you know what it is that
you want to achieve!
'Chase your dreams' people say. 'Follow your heart!' they announce. But what if you don't know what your goals are? How can you go after the thing that will make you happy when you have no idea what that thing is? The problem a lot of people have, is that they start with a goal rather than a vision.
In reality, a goal should come from a vision and you need one before you can have the other.
So what's the difference? A vision is a lot more abstract than a goal. A vision is not a plan or an idea but rather it is a lifestyle, a way of life, a state of affairs, a dream. Your goal will then fill in the steps from there.
To find your vision then, the simplest strategy is to try picturing your perfect life. Imagine you have been given a magic lamp and can make three wishes. Meanwhile, you also won the lottery. What does this perfect life look like? What does it entail? Where do you see yourself? Who is there with you?
For some people, this vision is going to be the typical archetype of success. You might be as we described earlier, standing on top of a high-rise building, looking out over your domain and wearing a smart suit.
But maybe that's not it. Maybe you're sitting in a hammock, drinking a cocktail while watching the sun set over a tropical ocean? Or perhaps your dream is more modest? Maybe you imagine having a beautiful house, a beautiful wife/husband and great kids. Maybe you envisage being able to spend all your time with those kids.
Or maybe, just maybe, your vision is completely bizarre to most people. Maybe your vision involves playing World of Warcraft all day. Maybe your vision isn't even physically possible.
All of this is fine - and the first crucial lesson we need to learn here is that you have to be honest with yourself. You need to be 100% brutally honest and if your dream is to enter a beauty pageant - as a guy - just admit it. Maybe your vision is just to be a bum and lie around the house!
Too many of us feel as though we have to live the life that others set out for us. We feel as though we need to achieve what is considered the traditional view of success. We feel the urge to please our teachers, our parents. And so when someone asks us 'what is your goal?', we will often say 'to be a lawyer'.
We're too embarrassed to say that we just want to spend more time with our kids. And we're too embarrassed to say we want to be a pop star. But what is the point of chasing someone else's dream? Go after the things that you feel passionate about and never feel ashamed of whatever they may be!
'Chase your dreams' people say. 'Follow your heart!' they announce. But what if you don't know what your goals are? How can you go after the thing that will make you happy when you have no idea what that thing is? The problem a lot of people have, is that they start with a goal rather than a vision.
In reality, a goal should come from a vision and you need one before you can have the other.
So what's the difference? A vision is a lot more abstract than a goal. A vision is not a plan or an idea but rather it is a lifestyle, a way of life, a state of affairs, a dream. Your goal will then fill in the steps from there.
To find your vision then, the simplest strategy is to try picturing your perfect life. Imagine you have been given a magic lamp and can make three wishes. Meanwhile, you also won the lottery. What does this perfect life look like? What does it entail? Where do you see yourself? Who is there with you?
For some people, this vision is going to be the typical archetype of success. You might be as we described earlier, standing on top of a high-rise building, looking out over your domain and wearing a smart suit.
But maybe that's not it. Maybe you're sitting in a hammock, drinking a cocktail while watching the sun set over a tropical ocean? Or perhaps your dream is more modest? Maybe you imagine having a beautiful house, a beautiful wife/husband and great kids. Maybe you envisage being able to spend all your time with those kids.
Or maybe, just maybe, your vision is completely bizarre to most people. Maybe your vision involves playing World of Warcraft all day. Maybe your vision isn't even physically possible.
All of this is fine - and the first crucial lesson we need to learn here is that you have to be honest with yourself. You need to be 100% brutally honest and if your dream is to enter a beauty pageant - as a guy - just admit it. Maybe your vision is just to be a bum and lie around the house!
Too many of us feel as though we have to live the life that others set out for us. We feel as though we need to achieve what is considered the traditional view of success. We feel the urge to please our teachers, our parents. And so when someone asks us 'what is your goal?', we will often say 'to be a lawyer'.
We're too embarrassed to say that we just want to spend more time with our kids. And we're too embarrassed to say we want to be a pop star. But what is the point of chasing someone else's dream? Go after the things that you feel passionate about and never feel ashamed of whatever they may be!
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