How to Gain Real, Permanent Confidence in Just Five Minutes Using Easy NLP Techniques

Confidence is one of those things that can help in every aspect of your life, and can be gained or strengthened quite easily using NLP. Confidence gained by way of NLP is just as powerful as confidence gained through experience. Once this is understood, and you master the ability to gain confidence through NLP, it becomes a snowballing juggernaut of positivity.

Confidence is a relatively simple psychological tool that provides great power, so why is it so hard for most people to achieve? In my opinion, most of the blame can be put on the fact that all humans spend the first dozen years of their life actively attacking the confidence of all around them. Some people stop this in their teens, others do this their whole lives. This is because of the flawed human instinct that you can gain confidence yourself by destroying the confidence of others. Luckily, this particular flaw we can turn around to work for us.

How confidence works

Confidence works as a self-fueling cycle, either for the positive or for the negative. That is why once your confidence is damaged, it can be difficult to send it back on the right path. 

How to gain confidence using NLP

Here is a script I've written that can show you how to gain confidence using NLP. You can adapt this script to suit your own purpose.

Step one - Do not hold confidence in awe!

If you hold the notion of confidence in awe or fear, you are telling yourself that it is a powerful thing that will be difficult to get. Confidence is just a tiny little emotional loop happening in your brain's limbic system. That is all confidence is! Believe it or not, you have complete power over your confidence right now and at all times.

Step two - Picture confidence as a golden aura around you

Imagine a very, extremely confident person who is doing something very confident, such as talking to some strangers at a party. Watch his body language, gestures, language patterns and facial expressions. Picture the confidence as a golden aura around him.

Step three - Feel how it is to be 100% confident in a known setting

Place that same aura around yourself, and enjoy that same confident feeling. Harness it. While you are doing this, you must set an NLP Anchor - I suggest pressing your left thumbnail into your left index finger in a pulsing motion. Picture yourself in a setting during which you would feel confident - such as doing something you've very good at, perhaps a hobby or recreational activity.

Step four - Feel how it is to be 100% confident in an unknown setting

Take the feeling of confidence and keep it flowing as you put yourself in a new, imaginary setting. Picture yourself in a scene which you would normally not be very confident, such as talking to a large group or to strangers at a party. Continue to imagine you have the golden confident aura around yourself.

Step five - Take a snapshot of yourself in the confident world

What you've just done is imagined yourself being yourself and feeling very confident. You now have a memory of yourself in a very confident state. Even though it is imagined, your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between an imagined memory and a real memory. Reinforce this, and the anchor.

Step six - Use the anchor

Now go use it! Use your anchor and let all the feelings of confidence come flooding in. If it isn't working very well, then go back to step one and repeat everything. Once you get the hang of this, you'll truly understand that confidence is a tiny little loop in your mind that you can switch on at will. The logic is undeniable:

1. By feeling more confident, you appear more confident
2. By appearing more confident, people react to you in a positive way
3. When people react to you in a positive way, it reinforces your confidence
4. (Go to step 1)

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